Mental Health - Lean Into The Feeling
The law commands us to do what we would naturally if we only had love. The Way consist of finding that love, which then becomes the law.
- The 14th Dalai Lama
Sometimes it is hard to feel love for someone who hurts your feelings or hurts your family's feelings. Even though you don't want to get upset you want to let that person know how you feel and receive an apology. Then they don't, and you feel even stronger negative emotions.
But everyone in your life serves a purpose. Everyone has something to teach you.
These following words by Kari Kampakis help us to understand how we can react if we only had love:
"And while people who are kind and friendly help teach you who you do want to be, those who are not kind and friendly teach you who you don’t want to be.
So when you encounter someone who hurts your feelings, lean into that feeling. Ask yourself what they did to make you feel that way. Was it the words they chose? Their tone? The way they picked favorites and then ignored everyone else?
Whatever they did, make a pledge. Promise yourself that you’ll never treat anyone the way they treated you. This is how you become a kinder and more compassionate person. This is how you learn from their mistakes.
And when you meet someone you really like, lean into that feeling, too. Ask yourself what they did to make you feel so good. Then make a pledge to yourself to be more like them. This is also how you become a kinder and more compassionate person.
Regardless of how anyone treats you, you stand to benefit. While some people teach you who you do want to be, others teach you who you don’t want to be. And it’s the people who teach you who you don’t want to be that provide some of the most lasting and memorable lessons on social graces, human dignity, and the importance of acting with integrity.”